Finding Help

This page is about personal help.

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Michaelangelo painting of the Hands of God and Adam

Illnesses affect us in much deeper ways than people generally realise, and healing requires attention to our hearts, minds and souls as well as our bodies.

The medical profession is often the first port of call for help, but brilliant as it is, it only offers help with physical symptoms and mental health.

We need to look elsewhere.

What is needed is one-to-one wise talk and understanding. You may be fortunate to have a family member or friend who is mature and perceptive enough to do this, but often relatives and close friends do not have the understanding you are looking for and are often strongly affected themselves by your situation. The fact is that they too may be in need of help with dealing with the changes that you are going through and are not really in a position to give you the clear and simple help you seek.

Painting by Daniel Ridgeway Knight - first grief

Otherwise there are organisations that can help. In my book I relate how Amanda came across the Bristol Cancer Centre. She liked what she read about them so went for a visit. There she found the stimulus to take charge of her life in a new way.  She moved on from being a victim of leukaemia to seeing herself as an intelligent and competent woman living in an exciting world while dealing with the effects of a life-threatening illness. In the light of this she began to think and live differently. It was the start of her healing journey.

There are many organisations that offer support for different illnesses. Search the internet and make thoughtful choices about what may be most helpful to you.

In many towns there are groups of people sharing similar health issues who meet regularly to talk and give each other support. They generally advertise themselves in local community centres, health shops and on facebook.

Beyond this it is important to have on-going help. You may find that your illness triggers all sorts of emotional responses, both in yourself and in others. It can be helpful to explore these in a confidential situation with a wise person who you trust. Amanda tried several counsellors before she met Rob. She always described him as being one of her mainstays. His support on the phone while she spent six weeks in isolation after her bone marrow transplant helped her make it through those difficult times.

A counsellor can also help with your own self-image. The sort of questions that arise are: Who am I now? What can I do with my life?   He or she can also be helpful in deciding how to deal with employers and government agencies who may not be sympathetic to your case.

For these conversations you really need someone who you feel at ease with, who is wise, centred in themselves, completely trustworthy and willing to give you plenty of time and attention. It cannot be someone who is too emotionally involved with you.

You can look for a trained counsellor or psychotherapist.

If you have a faith you might find help from a minister or elder.

If you are in school there may be a school counsellor.

There are many Alternative health workers and healers who offer sympathetic help.


If you are not used to paying  for this kind of support remember you are in a different and more difficult position than before.   Trying to get through so many issues alone can very hard. You need and deserve the best help possible.  Good counselling can be life enhancing and worth every penny. A good healer will help you turn your life around so you grow into your true self and live life to your full potential.

Painting by Gustave Dore - Jacob Wrestling with the Angel

'Whoever wrestles with this Angel is strengthened and made great'.